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Not me, but damn. I mean…

You can have almost anything you want in life as long as you a) help enough other people get what they want, and b) you don’t care that in the beginning, most people will just think that you’re failing. Today, I’m going to show you the hidden benefits of letting people think just that.

The genesis of this idea came to me after reading Plato’s Republic, specifically when Socrates is talking to (arguing with?) Glaucon about virtue (being a good person). They’re discussing whether it’s best to be thought a good person by everyone in the world but really be a terrible person in secret, or better to be thought an absolutely vile individual by everyone in the world, but actually be a good person in secret. …


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One of my best friends died a few weeks ago, and, although it’s a small consolation, he left me with an important lesson.

You see, I can’t imagine that he was all that satisfied with the life that he was living (or, as T.S. Eliot wrote, the life he had lost in living), but I also can’t remember him doing much to change it.

This isn’t a criticism of my dead friend — if I could possess the strength of character he had, I would happily die tomorrow. I just think that the fear of failure really stuck to him hard, along with not having many successful people to look up to and who could encourage him to start. …


Book #3 changed the way my mind worked forever

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I experience mixed feelings whenever someone recommends a book or a song that came out years ago and which I’m just discovering now. One part of me is grateful for the recommendation, but another part of me says, “This came out years ago and I’m only just discovering it now?!”

Two of the books I’m going to share below just came out in 2020, so it’s entirely possible that you haven’t heard of them yet. …


Introduction

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Hi there! I’m Matt Karamazov, and I’d like to thank Quy Ma for the invitation to write my personal story — the short version — here on About Me Stories!

It’s such a phenomenal idea for a publication! Especially since I believe that even though the world has become a much smaller place, human beings have only just started to meet each other, and to really see each other.

Alright, so…who am I anyway?

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I was shopping around for Maseratis last week and, in a moment of self-awareness that I felt rushing towards me at blinding speed, I realized how different I’ve become from my former self.

Now of course, I’ve changed and grown in many ways, not all of them easily classifiable as “good” or “bad.” But the thing is, I distinctly remember wanting nothing more than to be able to drive my parents’ Honda Accord to school one day and have all my classmates see me getting out of it. …


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“Get rich quick” exists, but “get rich easy” does not. Charlatans and snake-oil salesmen will take advantage of suckers until the heat death of our universe, but it’s entirely possible to make more money in the next five years (or ten) than you’ve made in your entire life up until this point.

You can become a millionaire in less than 5 years, but it’s going to be hard. You’re going to have to turn yourself into someone who is really, really good at making money, and that’s not easy. …


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Personal branding is important in the professional world, and I get that. I do. You obviously want to present yourself in a certain way, to present yourself in the best possible light, so as to attract the largest amount of attention and the highest quality of attention from the people you might wish to do business with in the future.

This is fine. This is totally reasonable, even, and if business gurus stopped there, that would also be fine. …


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Just like you, I’m nowhere near where I want to be in my life. There are plenty of reasons for why that is, causes and explanations we can both point to, but regardless of how we got here, the responsibility is on us to transcend our current challenges.

My twenties were nothing if not exciting. I’ve fought heavyweight boxing matches in Russia, gone to raves deep inside the Costa Rican jungle, and I’ve been kicked out of India. Seriously, like…India. The country. I mean, how many people do you know who have been kicked out of a sub-continent!?

That’s a story for another time — or perhaps my first book — but my point is…


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What follows comes from my “Memories” list, which is exactly what you might think it is. Creative title, I know. That being said, I highly recommend that you keep something like this for yourself.

I’m sure that plenty of incredible, hilarious, tragic, and meaningful things happen to you during your one and only life, and you cannot trust your memory. You will forget all the fun you’ve had, and that would be a waste.

Writing about yourself can be lame and self-indulgent in all sorts of ways, but I promise to avoid all that. …


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Good morning!

Today’s book is Although of Course You End Up Becoming Yourself, by David Lipsky, one of the absolute best books I’ve read so far in 2020.

And I’m at 68 right now!

Just finished Limitless, by Jim Kwik, The Iliad, by Homer, and The People Look Like Flowers at Last, by Charles Bukowski.

My apologies if today’s discussion is longer than anything you’d want to read.

I just think Wallace’s Infinite Jest is SUCH a spectacular book, and Lipsky’s book came about due to his 5-day stint on book tour with Wallace promoting Infinite Jest in 1996.

As you might know, Wallace ended up hanging himself in 2008, two years before Although of Course came out. I didn’t even know who he WAS in 2008, but I feel like someone very special to me was ripped away, even now. …

About

Matt Karamazov

Writer, reader, bodybuilder, nonprofit leader. I love seeing people succeed, and I love being alive! Best books→ https://www.mattkaramazov.com/reading-list/

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